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It is noteworthy how many shy people find some kind of outlet and security in acting. Some of our finest performers have started their careers out of shyness. It's as if the ability to "hide" in a character helps them overcome. Is it the best step to take? Maybe, maybe not. But it is a step. . . .
We all need to believe in ourselves. Sometimes it is as simple as saying "I am worthy of what I have," or, "I know that I am good." For others of us, who have histories that have emphasized a contrary message, the trick may be to recognize that feeling "low" is a fault within us to be corrected.
We all suffer loss of confidence at some point in our lives. What is important is to not let that feeling become an attitude or, worse, a habitually negative and defeatist way of looking at life. There has to be a bit of the actor in all of us to help us through the hard places. This does not mean playing a long-term role or adopting a way of behavior that is not truly ours. It is a temporary measure wherein acting confident, even when we don't feel confident, may get us through a sticky patch to the place where confidence is on its way, only a little late in arriving.
As the song says: You may be as brave as you make believe you are.
Oscar Bekoff, Ph.D., Litt.D.
Sacredness of Today
Even if we were immortal we would not want to contemplate an eternity of misery. We would be interested in the quality of life as it pours out of us, for us, every day. We would realize that each day we were constructing the quality of tomorrow, and of all our tomorrow’s, and we would want forever to be a first-rate experience. We would always be doing what we could to make our daily road smoother. We would always strive to enrich our immediate experience and be as fulfilled in each moment as we could be. If we were immortal we would have even less desire to be immortal in misery of ourselves, or to be surrounded by others, also immortal, who were miserable.
But the immortal always can appease himself with the thought that somewhere, in the vastness of eternity, things will get better. We have far less time, and yet so many of us manage that time badly. There is no way I can express too strongly the importance to our well-being of our appreciation of the uniqueness and the sacredness of Today.
There are so many people who have so little joy in their lives. Yet out of stubbornness, or fear (the two are often the opposite side of the same coin), they refuse to investigate ways to improve themselves or their existence.
Dr. Oscar Bekoff
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May you and your family enjoy a blessed lifespan,
Oscar Bekoff, Ph. D., Litt. D. (Behavioral Medicine)
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