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The Need To Believe
An inherent need of human beings is to have a belief system. But very few of us believe in ourselves. If we insist upon believing in something, as our natural tendencies compel us to do, let us believe in ourselves as individuals.
We must look within ourselves for the meaning of life, our own individual life, for where can we, or should we, look? Life contains only the quality and meaning that we as individuals choose to give it. In essence, there is no real meaning to life except that which we, as individuals, give it.
Individuals must think for themselves or they are no longer individuals. If they allow others to do their thinking for them, then they do not contribute their own unique perspective(s) to our society. They are merely members of the crowd.
My desire is to further the reaches of human nature and the total development of the human spirit to the point of self-actualization. We have the power to accomplish this within ourselves; we only need to choose to do so.
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A simple principle that I apply every day is the following: "I am the sum total of all the choices that I have made during my lifetime." Others are not responsible for who I am. It may be true that many people try to manipulate, control, and victimize you in any way they can. However, there would be fewer victims if people would stop playing role of the victim in their relationships with other people. I believe that you get treated the way you teach people to treat you. If you are treated badly by other people, ask yourself, "What is there about me that I allow others to treat me in this manner?" You can then look into yourself for the answers.
My teaching and lectures are a reflection of who and what I am. I am not interested in just handling my life; coping; getting along. I believe that one should try to master one's life. Have a mission--a purpose--and be a model for other people. Act it, be it, for actions speak louder than words.
Rather than talking about neurosis, depression, and all of the negative things that afflict people, choose to focus on the positive things. Choose to focus on what you have, rather than what you are lacking. Choose a path that allows you to be at peace with yourself. Live in the here and now, so you can appreciate each moment of your life as you live it.
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